When I attend church, I have NO expectations of being fed myself. I don't mean this to be boastful in any way, but I have been attending for over 40 years - so I rarely hear anything new. However, I do hear certain things phrased in interesting and "new" ways fairly regularly in my current ward, so when I am enlightened it is nice.
I attend consciously to help others - to find ways to phrase things that will be inclusive rather than exclusionary - to hug someone who looks tired or upset - to smile and talk with everyone - to contribute somehow to the community and the peace of individuals.
I truly enjoy it, since it has become, truly, a way to find myself by losing myself.