I once listened to a conversation between a couple of men who had been in the LDS Church for multiple decades - two men whom I admire greatly. One of them asked the other one the following question - to the best of my recollection:
What should we do if there is something in the Church Handbook of Instruction that isn't clear - if we aren't sure exactly what it means or what we should do?
His answer surprised me, but I agreed totally when I thought about it. He said - again, to the best of my recollection:
If it isn't spelled out, it isn't spelled out - so, by all that's holy and intelligent, don't ask someone to spell it out. There are lots of things we need to figure out on our own - through the Spirit and through our own intelligence and best efforts.
Sometimes we ask too many questions.