Throughout my life, I have found the most profound insights often come from people from whom I naturally would not expect to be able to learn anything – and they have come almost always when I am in the right frame of mind to listen carefully to what someone is trying to say and not get so caught up in crafting a response that I forget to listen to everything they say prior to reaching a conclusion about what I assume they are going to say. In other words, these insights come when I am more focused on understanding than arguing or being understood.
For example, I have had experiences of not liking what someone has said in General Conference
and then, when I read the talks afterward, realizing they really didn’t say what I thought while listening to the talks live. In nearly all cases, the disconnect was my focusing
so intently on one statement that I failed to hear the surrounding
statements or consider context enough to realize that I had misconstrued
the original statement and turned it into something other than what had
been intended. That same experience has occurred in conversations with
fellow members, with talks they give in Sacrament Meeting, with
co-workers, with my wife and children, while reading blog posts and
comments, etc – and it generally is because I was thinking of a response before they were done talking or before I was done reading.
it happens with people from whom I want to learn, I know it happens
even more frequently with people from whom I am not as inclined
naturally to want to learn.
I have learned
over the years to try to listen to everyone (their voice, in person, and
their words, in a forum like this) with the primary purpose of learning
from them rather than arguing with them - and, while I am not yet
perfect at it, the result has been amazing to me. I truly have been
able to learn from people from whom I didn't expect to learn anything.
Saturday Remix, 1944
6 hours ago