If we look at the ultimate objective of life within Mormon theology, it is to progress to the point where we know strictly from within ourselves what we need to do - and then we do it. That is a different definition of Godhood, but I think it's a valid one - since "perfect" in the scriptural sense means "complete, whole, fully developed" and is tied in multiple places to the idea of being agents unto ourselves.
In other words, the objective of Mormon theology is to reach the point that we will not need our Heavenly Father to be a Commander - even as we continue to need Him to be a Father.
That's worth considering, especially since Elder Holland actually said, "God is within you" multiple times in our Stake Conference a couple of years ago. He said it in a way that was totally "Mormony", but he said it in those exact words.