We too often are to others what others are to us.
If we can’t control our own feelings or actions toward those with whom we disagree, we have no standing to condemn them for not being able to control their feelings or actions toward us. For example, if we as Mormons speak in universal and stereotypical ways about evangelicals or Jehovah's Witnesses or anti-Mormon activists, we can't complain if they speak in those same ways about us.
We also can’t put the burden of understanding and love on them; we need to pick up that burden ourselves and model it to the best of our ability.
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