I take the kingdom construct (Celestial, Terrestrial and Telestial) figuratively as descriptions of the process of growth, so I absolutely believe in progression from "kingdom" to "kingdom" until each person reaches his or her own limit. I believe the final judgment happens only when that point is reached - and I think it happens long, long after we tend to believe. I take the classic breakdowns within the kingdoms to describe people in this life - and I think the general outlines in the D&C fit that time frame very well.
I believe God is WAY more charitable and powerful than we
often envision - and I think he has eternity ("all eternity") to do
what he wants to do. After all, "time is measured only unto man" (or
however that quote is worded). Thus, I think we talk in terms that will
motivate us here and now, but I think we see through a glass, darkly,
when it comes to there and then.
Our theology is universalist
in nature; our doctrine can't be as universalist if it is to motivate
many people to act now. (opposition in all things means ALL things,
even our theology and our doctrine) I get that tension, and I'm OK with
it - even as I wish we could strike a balance that would work better
for me and lots of others I know.
As to life without my loved
ones, one of my favorite scenes from any movie is near the end of "What
Dreams May Come" - where the husband thanks his wife for being the
person he would rather be with forever in Hell than without in Heaven.
It's a powerful message, and it's how I feel about my own wife - and
I can't imagine God feels differently, and I can't
imagine he lacks the ability to make it all work out in the end. After
all, charity is defined as the pure love of God - and it includes
"long-suffering". I think we simply can't fathom what that term really
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