If you are in control of your life, you are missing much of what the Lord would like to help you experience. Whether it is through a calling (you or your spouse) or an unexpected stressful event or something else, He will help you grow in more ways than you can imagine - if you are willing to give up control of your life.
Now I know there are different degrees of control and different areas of control - and that being in control of what you can and should control is a great thing, but some of my greatest growth has come from things that were not within my control.
Joseph F. Smith: The Rights of Children
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