We have two competing commandments - or at least it appears that way on the surface. The greatest one is, “Love God and love thy neighbor as thyself,” “Love one another,” “Do unto others as you would have them do unto you,” or any number of ways to phrase it. The other one is, “Preach the Gospel.” Christ said that the world would hate those who represent him, but he didn’t say that meant we should preach in such a way as to antagonize by our own actions. He generally didn’t do that, and neither should we.
There are many reasons why the early Saints were persecuted as harshly as they were, but one of them is how arrogantly they proclaimed their chosen status. I have read most of the published anti-Mormon stuff from the pre-Utah years, and that is a central theme. That arrogance and attendant pride is the central reason given for the demise of the United Order, as well.We can fulfill the command to preach the Gospel as well as the command to love others, but we can't do it with an antagonistic spirit.