For behold, it is not meet that I should command in all things; for he that is compelled in all things, the same is a slothful and not a wise servant; wherefore he receiveth no reward. (Doctrine & Covenants 58:26)
I am positive that many of the "rules" that have developed over the years in the LDS Church have been given because someone insisted on getting instructions about something that should have been left up to that person's agency to decide. I think many are cases where the leadership threw their hands in the air and said:
"Fine, we will give you an answer, since you won't shut up and stop asking - even though you shouldn't need to get instructions from us about this."
It's like the flight attendant who shows everyone how to use the seat belt before the plane takes off.
If you don't know how to use a seat belt, you shouldn't be flying.
As a close friend said once, at some point we need to grow up and become adults of God.