One of my favorite quotes from Joseph Smith is: "I teach them correct principles and they govern themselves."
I believe strongly that I will be judged by the intent of my heart and my honest effort - not by whether I am able to live any command as well as someone else or accept any doctrine as easily or readily as someone else. I’m not Calvin’s puppet in God’s hands; I’m striving to be an instrument that plays Handel while squeaking like my friends in school learning to play the bagpipes. I might never make truly beautiful music to human ears, but my effort will bring forth beautiful fruit before I die.
One of the difficulties I have seen in my callings at various levels is the tendency we humans have, even those of us who are trying to improve and become perfect, to insist that: 1) my perspective is the best perspective, or 2) my choices are the best choices, or 3) my actions are the best actions, ad infinitum. Of course, I believe that there are certain traits that all “fully believing” Mormons share, but I think that our differences FAR outweigh our similarities in many ways. How else could we produce Orrin Hatch, Mitt Romney and Harry Reid - or the truly unique conglomeration of personalities and opinions that always has constituted the First Presidency and Quorum of the Twelve Apostles?
Contrary to popular media opinion, I think one of the most amazing aspects of Mormonism is what an incredibly wide range of strong personalities and opinions it produces / attracts. Perhaps the “correct principles” that unite us are limited, but the result of our self-governance is an amazing tapestry.