tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post6043157322323527102..comments2023-12-26T10:22:04.630-05:00Comments on Things of My Soul: Traditional Roles for Mothers and FathersPapa Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comBlogger10125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-77171140435963562572009-06-08T11:26:30.315-04:002009-06-08T11:26:30.315-04:00Papa D ~ Thank you for the clarification.Papa D ~ Thank you for the clarification.Kalolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04489121984901640634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-35300074689042286672009-06-08T00:08:19.751-04:002009-06-08T00:08:19.751-04:00Kalola, when I said it "used to be" rese...Kalola, when I said it "used to be" reserved for the upper class, I meant before the advent of modern technology and the Industrial Revolution. I don't mean a few decades ago; at the least, I mean over 150 years ago. <br /><br />I should have made that FAR more clear. <br /><br />In our modern times, think of poor families without Welfare, Food Stamps, Medicaid, Church assistancePapa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-32314674692872412702009-06-07T22:44:40.059-04:002009-06-07T22:44:40.059-04:00PapaD, you stated: "I sustain and honor stay...PapaD, you stated: "I sustain and honor stay-at-home-mothers, but I also understand it's a relatively modern luxury that used to be reserved for only the truly upper class."<br /><br />I grew up in a working class neighborhood in Queens, NY. The majority of women were stay-at-home-mothers. I'm trying to understand why some people think SAHMs was "reserved for only the Kalolahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04489121984901640634noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-57410850273628941952009-06-06T13:05:28.185-04:002009-06-06T13:05:28.185-04:00Anonymous2-
I never said it was each task split ...Anonymous2- <br /> I never said it was each task split equally in half. Just the effort of caring for the kids. I consider me making dinner and hubby watching kids a equal split cause they aren't under my feet. He is helping me.<br /><br />I too find the tally sheet concept unreasonable for me and my spouse. Too much tit for tat and too much possibility for assinine arguments.<br /><br />I Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16620999018026605884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-52253593976455038032009-06-05T20:35:25.077-04:002009-06-05T20:35:25.077-04:00Stay at home mom has acquired a negative connotati...Stay at home mom has acquired a negative connotation since the 1960s. Historically all women, even rulers stayed home because the home was the work place. Everyone worked. Supporting a family was a group effort. <br /><br />With the advent of the industrial revolution, child labor laws and technologies that took the work into the market place women's work became limited to what we now call YvonneShttp://asonewomanthinketh.blogspot.com/feeds/posts/defaultnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-65332492167476918022009-06-05T14:55:50.817-04:002009-06-05T14:55:50.817-04:00Anonymous1, remember, I said historically it is a ...Anonymous1, remember, I said historically it is a luxury. In our modern times, especially up until fairly recently, it has become much more doable for the middle class - but it requires a direct repudiation of much of what has become seen as necessary. <br /><br />Anonymous2, in my mind, the key is for each couple to figure out what works for them - and that is the heart of what the Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-60093165813795613762009-06-05T14:34:42.670-04:002009-06-05T14:34:42.670-04:00In response to Aprillium, I think it rather unfair...In response to Aprillium, I think it rather unfair to expect completely equal sharing. People are often offended that my wife and I do not trade-off changing diapers. We do not have set rules governing sharing; our "rule" (if it must be so called) is to do what it takes to lighten the load of the other. If my wife is cooking dinner, I will change the diapers, if there are any. If my Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-77838818939898159472009-06-05T14:31:50.262-04:002009-06-05T14:31:50.262-04:00I understand how difficult it is to make it on one...I understand how difficult it is to make it on one income. I live in New Jersey making $20/hr, and my wife stays at home with our two children. While it is hard, we would likely spend as much on day care as my wife would make working. So, no, I do not agree that stay-at-home mother's are a luxury reserved for the truly upper class.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-75133697267476278052009-06-05T11:14:53.265-04:002009-06-05T11:14:53.265-04:00AMEN.
I find it interesting that as a Stay at ho...AMEN. <br /><br />I find it interesting that as a Stay at home mother (lucky as I am) I have many assume that I do EVERYTHING for the kids. I usually laugh at this cause when my husband is home we split the duties half and half. I find that people are usually surprised by the fact that we share duties. How warped is that?Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16620999018026605884noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-31860658893678519872009-06-05T01:55:40.727-04:002009-06-05T01:55:40.727-04:00I don't have the stat in front of me, but in a...I don't have the stat in front of me, but in a fatherhood class during undergrad I learned that about 1 in 10 U.S. families can make it on one income alone. My wife and I are trying to do it, but it's going to take getting to the top 1% of the country (in regards to education) to get there...<br /><br />Recently I have been reading some stuff that actually suggests a biological/adamfhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06177880599252455507noreply@blogger.com