tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post1636439601190297768..comments2023-12-26T10:22:04.630-05:00Comments on Things of My Soul: Becoming a More Forgiving PersonPapa Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comBlogger14125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-25878456571559672622009-03-31T18:14:00.000-04:002009-03-31T18:14:00.000-04:00Jen, I'm so sorry for what you've gone through and...Jen, I'm so sorry for what you've gone through and are presently struggling with. It's really awful.Tiffany Wacaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224661646987749451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-76565122396457537132009-03-31T16:20:00.000-04:002009-03-31T16:20:00.000-04:00Please carry on this conversation as long as you l...Please carry on this conversation as long as you like. I am being greatly edified because of it. <BR/><BR/>THANK YOU!!Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-63520209761020996392009-03-31T00:25:00.000-04:002009-03-31T00:25:00.000-04:00swedemom, I am in the place that you were at one t...swedemom, I am in the place that you were at one time, in that I have no desire to forgive and I don't want Heavenly Father to forgive them either. Even though I know this person has lost everything in their life (relationships, church membership,etc.) they live as though they could care less and still have an attitude of deep ingratitude. It would seem like they are suffering, but it really Jennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-50169625893684211822009-03-30T08:59:00.000-04:002009-03-30T08:59:00.000-04:00Jen, I can understand many of your feelings. I rea...Jen, I can understand many of your feelings. I realize that my situation is not exactly the same. But as I struggled to forgive my uncle, it took me a long time before I even had a desire to forgive him. I didn't want him to be forgiven by Heavenly Father. After all, he had done horrible damage to my sister and to several of my cousins. I wanted him to PAY with fire and damnation. It wasn't untilTiffany Wacaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224661646987749451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-26764649391201824972009-03-29T19:20:00.000-04:002009-03-29T19:20:00.000-04:00Thanks Ray for your response. I am grateful that ...Thanks Ray for your response. I am grateful that you brought up writing down my prayer, because I have actually written letters ("prayers") to Heavenly Father before, but I haven't done it in a while and didn't think of doing it in that context. I appreciate your insight. The idea of writing down a prayer also reminded me of the concept of a negative feelings journal in which you write down allJennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-28717510333790777942009-03-29T17:23:00.000-04:002009-03-29T17:23:00.000-04:00One thing that has helped me has been to understan...One thing that has helped me has been to understand that to deserve to be forgiven I need first to accept that those who have hurt me can be forgiven too.<BR/>When I have surrendered to Christ I have accepted the price He has set which is that no matter what has hurt me, the pain is mine and I can grow from it but the offense is His and I have no claim over it.<BR/>If I claim it then others are Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-37249452392292315092009-03-29T01:23:00.000-04:002009-03-29T01:23:00.000-04:00Jen, part of my answer to you is in my response to...Jen, part of my answer to you is in my response to swedemom, but I want to add one thing.<BR/><BR/>Praying for those who despitefully use you is hard - very hard. I don't believe in crafting a word-for-word prayer for anyone, but I do believe that there are situations where thinking through a prayer in advance, writing down what you want to say and reading it to your Father in Heaven is more thanPapa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-70284335494412221392009-03-29T01:22:00.000-04:002009-03-29T01:22:00.000-04:00swedemom, thank you for sharing that example. I kn...swedemom, thank you for sharing that example. I know a family that was nearly destroyed because of sexual abuse, and I have seen how hard it is for the woman who stepped in, picked up the pieces and loved those kids back into a healthy life to forgive the perpetrator. It's been a few years since the abuse occurred, and this wonderful woman still has not reached a state of peace and forgiveness - Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-28489722978749925312009-03-28T23:32:00.000-04:002009-03-28T23:32:00.000-04:00I consider myself a forgiving person overall and o...I consider myself a forgiving person overall and one that doesn't take offense easily. I think I consider myself in that way because, with the Lord's help, I have been able to forgive several people in my life who have deeply hurt me.<BR/><BR/>I realized though, as I have read this post, that there is a person that has affected my life so significantly and in such a negative way that I have notJennoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-55615134219465570102009-03-28T19:25:00.000-04:002009-03-28T19:25:00.000-04:00I can't tell you how much I appreciated this post....I can't tell you how much I appreciated this post. I learned more about forgiveness in a deep and personal way over a period of several years. Several years ago, I learned that my uncle had molested one of my sisters. I can't tell you how many hours I spent reading the scriptures, praying for peace and trying to let go of the murderous desire to enact revenge upon my uncle. I think the hardest Tiffany Wacaserhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08224661646987749451noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-53850760341987909422009-03-28T15:22:00.000-04:002009-03-28T15:22:00.000-04:00RoAnn, I had struggled with exactly what to write ...RoAnn, I had struggled with exactly what to write for this post, and that insight hit me late in the process. It actually changed the way I was structuring the post - as I began to write it. It was a neat experience, and I'm glad it helped. <BR/><BR/>Choc, thank you for that incredible quote. I am going to copy it and use it as a stand-alone post in the future - one of those Tuesday or Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-42874958865294576962009-03-28T12:25:00.000-04:002009-03-28T12:25:00.000-04:00Thanks Ray,It's tough at times to recognize and dr...Thanks Ray,<BR/>It's tough at times to recognize and drop the pride that keeps us from being meek and able to forgive. <BR/>Whether it manifests itself in work relationships, road rage, or the unwillingness to change, it seems the most difficult human attribute to overcome.<BR/>Praying for those who treat us unfairly really does work but how often do we forget to do that..Bruce in Montanahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08480425208723630243noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-82146668095982480292009-03-28T12:08:00.000-04:002009-03-28T12:08:00.000-04:00This is a great post Ray, and I totally agree with...This is a great post Ray, and I totally agree with it.<BR/><BR/>I have experienced the need to exercise this kind of forgiveness in my life, but I've never been quite able to verbalize it the way that you have here.<BR/><BR/>Another interesting thing, I think that being this type of person - one who is truly full of Christ's charitable love - takes daily recommittment. And as we continue to workAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-9889327954079652932009-03-28T10:42:00.000-04:002009-03-28T10:42:00.000-04:00Thank you for this post. It has helped me clarify ...Thank you for this post. It has helped me clarify some thoughts I have had about forgiveness and charity, and will help me to be more sensitive to spiritual promptings in my family relationships.Rosalie Erekson Stonehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07071759091953776747noreply@blogger.com