tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post7418398924701791895..comments2023-12-26T10:22:04.630-05:00Comments on Things of My Soul: When Divorce Is the Best OptionPapa Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-78400482210000017272012-01-18T00:02:11.350-05:002012-01-18T00:02:11.350-05:00"Sunlight" (the last anonymous commenter..."Sunlight" (the last anonymous commenter), We disagree totally as to whether or not divorce is ever acceptable - as well as the way you are defining abuse compared to how I used it. You seem to be saying divorce should not be allowed in any case whatsoever, including extreme abuse of every imaginable type. You also appear to condemn all remarriages that follow divorce for any reason.Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-63123661810550366522012-01-17T17:31:36.500-05:002012-01-17T17:31:36.500-05:00If it is true that spouses should leave an abusive...If it is true that spouses should leave an abusive spouse then that would mean that God would want most all couples in the Church to divorce today. Do we really think that would create a better world, to have everyone divorce? <br /><br />For in almost every marriage in and out of the Church, one or both spouses are abusing the other in some form or degree and often don't even know it. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-10669570530032631362011-09-14T16:53:52.068-04:002011-09-14T16:53:52.068-04:00I really appreciate this post. I think that every ...I really appreciate this post. I think that every person has to find their own way through life, and I really appreciated those who gave me the freedom to decide what was best for me.<br /><br />In my situation, divorce was eventually the best option. Some thought I stayed too long. Most thought I should have worked it out. I've come to accept it was MY path and my journey and it was perfect jenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/07609613967033394629noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-83891671333626702522011-09-14T15:02:57.956-04:002011-09-14T15:02:57.956-04:00E, I can tell you feel strongly about this subject...E, I can tell you feel strongly about this subject :)<br /><br />I did not feel like commenting about the subject because I also feel very strongly about the subject of abuse to the point that I am aware this is partly what is holding me back in the process of getting married.<br />Abuse is the the most perverse form of violence.Gwennaëllehttp://backandthen.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-75522378169847266612011-09-14T13:11:22.143-04:002011-09-14T13:11:22.143-04:00E, I agree with SilverRain totally about telling s...E, I agree with SilverRain totally about telling someone in an abusive situation that they need to repent is the wrong approach. They need love and support, not anything that even hints at criticism or condemnation. To "repent" means nothing more than to "change", at the most core level (so, in that sense, your comment about repentance can be read as totally valid), but we Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-12793748757009088642011-09-14T11:47:22.762-04:002011-09-14T11:47:22.762-04:00I absolutely know that there are situations where ...I absolutely know that there are situations where divorce is the right option, but I'd stop short of actually being the one to recommend divorce. I was struck years ago by Elder Oaks counseling bishops to never counsel someone to divorce. The decision needs to be made by the individual, because the consequences will also have to be endured by the individual. <br /><br />I also disagree with EMichellehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08215431222961203620noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-35688203047744628682011-09-14T10:37:15.105-04:002011-09-14T10:37:15.105-04:00Telling someone in the middle of an abusive situat...Telling someone in the middle of an abusive situation that they need to repent is the exact opposite advice they need. They know they need to repent. In fact, they know they need to repent so much, so deeply, and so personally, that they doubt their ability to do it.<br /><br />And calling them "enablers" and using words like "permit" to describe what a victim does just SilverRainhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00580230961425635077noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-17729995395789726992011-09-14T00:38:30.264-04:002011-09-14T00:38:30.264-04:00I'll go further and say that anyone who stays ...I'll go further and say that anyone who stays in an abusive situation, especially if there are children in the family, needs to repent. It is wrong wrong wrong to permit abuse, and staying with an abuser enables it.Enoreply@blogger.com