tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post1125183921436716349..comments2023-12-26T10:22:04.630-05:00Comments on Things of My Soul: Should Mormons Marry Non-Mormons?Papa Dhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comBlogger17125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-2268562932890050702016-02-14T18:42:01.458-05:002016-02-14T18:42:01.458-05:00The only advice I have is to lover her for who she...The only advice I have is to lover her for who she is - and to keep your eyes. Wide open to the difficulties of differences in marriage. <br /><br />Above all else, love her - completely and unconditionally and passionately. Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-36277549592756757822015-12-28T14:49:17.498-05:002015-12-28T14:49:17.498-05:00Hey, I'm dating a Mormon and I'm an atheis...Hey, I'm dating a Mormon and I'm an atheist. She really wants a temple marriage someday and I know her parents will never approve of her marrying me. It really stresses me out to think about how complicated and hard everything is, and will be. Especially marriage. All I know is I love her. Any advice from someone who has been here? Or a similar situation. Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-7413642560879240292015-10-14T23:32:27.914-04:002015-10-14T23:32:27.914-04:00Compound, not command. Compound, not command. Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-5900340900641796762015-10-14T23:30:01.573-04:002015-10-14T23:30:01.573-04:00There is no commandment to not date non-members. N...There is no commandment to not date non-members. None. <br /><br />Marraige is difficult. Differences command that difficulty. Differences can be overcome, but they also can be destructive. What happens is up to the individual couples. Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-19886561454479639492015-10-14T18:47:07.138-04:002015-10-14T18:47:07.138-04:00I am a non-member married to a Mormon (for 16 year...I am a non-member married to a Mormon (for 16 years now). My wife is strong in the church, accepts and handles her callings (currently Primary President) exceedingly well. This on top of being a full-time working professional. Our children go to church with her.<br />Our marriage definitely has not been an easy ride for many reasons that also go beyond the church, but as two intelligent people, Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-18761461112004066552015-08-07T05:36:03.196-04:002015-08-07T05:36:03.196-04:00FROM A LDS TEACHER:
I was teaching the youth abou...FROM A LDS TEACHER:<br /><br />I was teaching the youth about dating nonmembers, and I gave this quote:<br /><br />“Clearly, right marriage begins with right dating. … Therefore, this warning comes with great emphasis. Do not take the chance of dating nonmembers, or members who are untrained and faithless. A girl may say, ‘Oh, I do not intend to marry this person. It is just a “fun” date.’ But Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11352044115427905314noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-28857125061969329452015-03-28T16:56:02.045-04:002015-03-28T16:56:02.045-04:00wow. for me I'm Atheist and my wife is Mormon ...wow. for me I'm Atheist and my wife is Mormon she has three callings and goes every Sunday and takes our son, I'm fine with that and we both agree that when he is old enough to choose if he still wants to go or not he can. I am respectful of her believes and she is of mine. Over the past 15 years i have been married to my wife i have seen many temple marriages end in devours and all of Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-11202219427482603782014-10-01T17:19:46.341-04:002014-10-01T17:19:46.341-04:00I'm in a relationship with a non-member. I do ...I'm in a relationship with a non-member. I do love him, but it stresses me out tremendously. I wouldn't leave him because he's not of my faith though. I have spent a long time easing him in on the LDS faith and showing him that we're pretty awesome people, I am sure that if I left him because he wasn't LDS would make him resent not just me, but everyone of the LDS faith. I am Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-43401074233793581052014-06-25T16:58:25.047-04:002014-06-25T16:58:25.047-04:00Anonymous, the most recent, you are correct. I sh...Anonymous, the most recent, you are correct. I should have been more precise and limited the numerical statement to inter-Christian rates of divorce. <br /><br />Mea culpa. Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-8968194308535975562014-06-23T21:46:10.191-04:002014-06-23T21:46:10.191-04:00Hindus in the US have lower divorce rate than the ...Hindus in the US have lower divorce rate than the Mormons. Hindus divorce rate is only 5%. Get your facts right, before posting stuff publicly.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-28084326555466187672014-01-13T18:53:35.669-05:002014-01-13T18:53:35.669-05:00I dated both members and non. Talked seriously ab...I dated both members and non. Talked seriously about marriage with only members, though.<br />I was engaged to a missionary and was allowed to date while he was gone (proved to be the demise of our relationship, of course).<br />I met a non-member and we dated for a short time before he asked me to marry him.<br />shock!<br />(note sarcasm)<br />I told him that I simply couldn't marry him Sulanne G.noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-32855074908234894062013-12-08T19:11:26.633-05:002013-12-08T19:11:26.633-05:00Also, as a follow-up to my last comment, if you co...Also, as a follow-up to my last comment, if you come back and read this, I would suggest you look at another post I wrote: <br /><br />"When Divorce Is the Best Option" <br /><br />http://thingsofmysoul.blogspot.com/2011/09/when-divorce-is-best-option.htmlPapa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-61641601097027056152013-12-08T19:02:24.853-05:002013-12-08T19:02:24.853-05:00Yes, Anonymous, the most recent, that is a problem...Yes, Anonymous, the most recent, that is a problem (a serious problem) - but it is not a uniquely Mormon problem. There are lots of women AND men who stay in unhappy, unhealthy marriages "because kids, because finances, because self-esteem caused by abuse, because familiarity, because fear of being alone, because, because, because . . ." <br /><br />I absolutely am not trying to Papa Dhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06704974609266088416noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-3729446945535534882013-12-07T04:05:59.295-05:002013-12-07T04:05:59.295-05:00What the survey doesn't say when talking about...What the survey doesn't say when talking about "the temple marriage divorce rate is about 6%-10% - the lowest rate of all religion-based rates in the US, by far." is that I know numerous of couple staying together because of their "eternal covenant" but they don't love each other anymore. But the eternal family ideal pressure is so strong among the church that they Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-2932611981296909582011-09-20T12:02:25.154-04:002011-09-20T12:02:25.154-04:00You are dead on. I know of only a handful of peop...You are dead on. I know of only a handful of people who have stayed active after marrying a non-member. I have served in leadership positions that where I have constant review of membership records and situations for the past 20 years. If I had to venture a guess, I would say 95% of members who marry a non-member go inactive. Like Elder Hales says, eventually a choice has to be made, and Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-71904841168417069322011-09-19T16:43:13.489-04:002011-09-19T16:43:13.489-04:00From Elder Robert D. Hales, discussing the questio...From Elder Robert D. Hales, discussing the question, "How do I find the right person to marry?":<br /><br />"Measure the spiritual level of your potential future companions. First, if they are members of the Church, are they active and fully committed, or are they passive or antagonistic? Second, if they are not members, are they receptive to the gospel and its teachings, or are Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-3199387660357003170.post-72834454375355853672011-09-16T09:55:54.214-04:002011-09-16T09:55:54.214-04:00As someone who happily married a Catholic, I could...As someone who happily married a Catholic, I couldn't agree more with: "[An inter-faith marriage] is something I believe should NEVER be done with the idea that "s/he will convert after our marriage".<br /><br />Also, even the most active members of the Church ought to cross-stitch this and hang it up somewhere: "If you really love someone, you love them not only for who Peter LLCnoreply@blogger.com